"The more difficulties one has to encounter, within and without, the more significant and the higher in inspiration his life will be."

I know, its been a very long time since I posted but its time to get back up on these quotes of the day!

"The more difficulties one has to encounter, within and without, the more significant and the higher in inspiration his life will be."

Gosh, how true is that, right? It's funny how we hear all the time people complaining about life, about how horrible their life is. I admit, I've done it. I've done it more than once, more than twice, heck more than 20 times!

I always thought my life was horrible, every little problem that would hit me hard in the face made me feel it was all over. But, little by little I was beginning to realize that all these little obstacles and difficulties were simply lessons in life. I live by "No Regrets, simply Lessons Learned."

If we live everyday by having no regrets, we learn to live by our mistakes which end up being lessons learned. They are our knowledge to help us out in the future, our inspiration to keep going on another day.

It's better to have loved and lost, than to have never loved at all. It's better to have felt what true "love" really is, to have had that moment in your life even if it gets taken from you one day than to have never felt what "love" trully is and what "being in love" is like. You could tell yourself one day in the future after whatever heartbreaking moment took that love from you, that you lived through it. That you felt it, that you know what its like to love someone like you've never loved another. When that moment was there, it was special, it was beautiful. You were able to experience a little extra in life.

I like to think of challanges and difficulties in life as a stairwell. In life, were moving up, moving forward, then suddenly something hits us right in the head. Do you really want to move a step down? After all those steps you've already taken to get to them top, is it worth it to take one or two steps down? No! You want to keep moving forward dont you? Because if you do, you know at the top is exactly all you wanted! When you get to the top, you know you've made it! You've made it to that point in life you've always wanted! Don't let any little problem get in the way of you continuing to go up those steps. Don't be a failure, don't ever be a failure and give up and decide to walk down the steps in life you have worked so hard to go up.

If life ever throws you those curve balls, you take them on and let that be your inspiration to keep on going. To tell life "I'm not going to let you get to me!" Brush it aside, be strong. Let it make you a stronger person, the bigger person.

I could tell you that I am a stronger person now than I was years ago, simply because of all those curve balls I've had in life. I held on to them, and I told myself I wasn't going to let them keep me down. I was going to take them as lessons learned in life, and as my inspiration to keep on going another day and in the end it has made me the stronger person.

So remember, when life hits you hard in the face, take that as a lesson in life and to help you be the bigger person in the end to help you get to the top.

"If you can imagine it, you can achieve it; if you can dream it, you can become it."

The quote couldn't have said it any better. How many times do we sometimes sit there and 'fantasize' about the life we wish we had?

I know I do all the time. I'm always sitting down on my chair at work infront of that same computer screen and I think to myself how I wish my life could be different...not infront of a computer all day but at home with my kids and watching them grow up. One of the things that hurts me the most is being away from them most of the day. I feel I am missing out on an important part of their life. And, I think how much easier things would be if we had a nice house...good amount of money...and a big house...

...and from there my dreams just keep going on and on with all the little things I wish I had in life.

Then sometimes I think, "They're just dreams, I don't think that day will ever come."

But, after thinking very hard about this I think back to about 5 years ago...back when I first got pregnant with my daughter at the tender age of 16. Then, at 17 I was a mommy. I remember the things I would 'dream' about then was having enough money to support myself and my daughter, to meet a real guy, to move out and be on my own, to have my own car, etc.

Here I am 5 years later...I have a good job....my own apartment...a wonderful fiance and we now have a son together. My daughter has all she needs, her own room, stylish clothes and shoes, plenty of toys to play with, food in the fridge for her to eat. I have my own car. I make enough money to live 'somewhat' comfortably although it would be nice to not have to worry about money so much. But hey, I've gotten somewhere in life. All those days of sitting there and dreaming about a greater life motivated me to get to where I am now.

I may not be 'exactly' how I envisioned my life to be, but i'm getting a step closer everyday. The choices I make everyday are guiding me to those dreams and hopes I had for my future.

So, I know that if I keep sticking to it...keep my head on and focused on what I trully want in life, then I will make it there. Sometimes it may take time, sometimes I may hit some rough roads, sometimes I will feel like giving up...but if I keep going and don't give up, then in the end it will all trully pay off.

"This Too Shall Pass"

One of my favorite quotes ever. It's one of those quotes that you sort of have to really think about before letting it absorb into your head.

I remember reading it once, and I read it over and over in my head and suddenly it became one of my favorite quotes. I have a picture of this quote written in the sand near the ocean framed in my house and everyday I see it, and its my little bit of motivation to go on about my days.

There's those days when I feel nothing else could go wrong. We all have those days...you run late for work, your boss is on your ass all day, feels like your doing absolutely everything wrong, you leave work and car wont start, dont make it on time to pick up the kids, get home late and kids are driving you insane, realize you have nothing to make dinner...etc...etc. Yes, we all have those days. Sometimes you just have to sit back, take a deep breath and tell yourself "This too shall pass."

And, I promise you, it will. Not too long ago I was having the worst financial problems I have ever faced. I had just got my apartment, a week later I have my son, I wasn't working and was on disabilty leave for my maternity time off and wasn't making close to what I was making while at work. I didn't have enough to pay the rent or to even buy food. I was doing absolutely everything possible to get money to make it another day. Bills kept stacking up, but I had no money to pay them. Then, I get into a car accident and since I had no money, I had been unable to pay my car insurance and so it was cut off. I thought I would never get out of it. I thought I was going to go crazy and I stressed every single day wondering how I would get out of that mess. I told myself 'this too shall pass', but yet it felt that every day it kept getting worst rather than better.

But, believe it or not...it got better. I am now living comfortably as of finances and I am glad that I am not stressing out about money as I was not too long ago.

There may be things in life that we think we will never overcome. Obstacles that face us that we wonder how we will make it, but we will, because before you know it, it will have passed you by. So, hang in there...I know life is rough sometimes but you have to learn to ride those bumpy roads and hang tight and just tell yourself, "This too shall pass."

"Live Each Day As If It Were Your Last"

Ok, so I know this is one of those famous quotes we always hear and your probably thinking..."Ok Mayra, couldn't you just come up with something better than that?" Well, yes, I could have. But, I didn't because I felt to start off this blog...this would be the perfect way to start it.

Honestly, when I used to hear this quote...I never really, really paid attention to it. It was always just one of those nice sayings we would brush aside. I didn't realize the true meaning of it though until April 8, 2009. The day that has changed my life forever and my perspective of thinking.

It was just a normal day for me. It was a Wednesday night, my daughter had just gone with her dad and my boyfriend was over and we were going to take the baby to see his parents. Our son was 5 weeks old at the time. Since I had the baby's carseat base already in my car, I decided to take my car to his parents house and he could take his car.

Usually, whenever we go somewhere, my boyfriend always is the one that follows me. As we were pulling out of the driveway, he signaled me to go ahead, and I told him to just go so I could follow him. Why? I have no idea because usually I would be the one in lead.

Here we were pulling into a left turning light...me one car behind my boyfriend...and all of a sudden everything went black for me. That's all I remember, everything going black, hearing a deep ringing in my ear and seconds after that hearing the sound of metal shattering. 'What was going on?' I remember feeling so confused in those couple of seconds, not knowing what was going on. Then, it had all stopped and I open my eyes and I am in a car filling up with smoke.

I was so confused and honestly had no idea what had just happened. Then, I hear my son crying in the backseat. My biggest fear is fires, oh how I hate fires! And, my first reaction as I sat there in my car filling up with smoke and with a smell of something burning was that my car was catching on fire and I had to get my son out.

Then, I realized, I was in a car accident...and from the looks of it, it looked bad. Suddenly extreme pain came to my head and face and body all at once, but I brushed it aside as I managed to open my door so I could take me and my son out.

I began to panic when I realized my door wasn't opening. I was trapped. Just then is when I saw my boyfriend standing by my window and within seconds he had my door tore open. He just suddenly became Superman because that door sure as hell was jammed in. Words cannot describe though the relief I felt the second I saw him there...I suddenly felt everything was going to be OK and I was not alone.

I wasn't all there after the accident. I was taken to sit on the sidewalk as ambulance arrived, that's when I got to see my car and when I saw it, I couldn't believe I had walked out of it and my son have come out without a scratch.

I was taken into the hospital as major trauma since I kept loosing consciousness, which I am assuming was just from a bump to the head, other than that all I had was a fracture in my face and some bad bruising and swelling.

Apparently what had happened was as I was pulling into the left turning lane, a car that was going straight hit me from the back, which then pushed my car into the truck infront of me, which then sent my car over the center divide on the left hand side over to the other side of the street onto uncoming traffic where yet another car hit me in the front.

And, I remember laying there in the hospital and I thought to myself, "How was it that one second I was there on my way to my boyfriends house, listening to my music in the car...and the next I was laying out on the side of the road after a horrible accident?"

I never saw it coming. Nothing prepared me for it. It just happened and I had no time to react to it, no time to have done something different to avoid it happening. It just happened...and within those seconds my life could've been taken from me, not just that but my son's life too!

When I finally was unstrapped from being in a neck brace and tied down to the flatboard and was able to hold my son for the first time since the accident, I held him like I never held him before. I hugged him and kissed him and nearly cried because how thankful I was to be able to be holding him, to be able to tell him I loved him, to be able to kiss his little head, and to be able to be there one extra day being his mother. And, when I got home...I have never been more happier than to be able to see my daughter again. Within those few seconds my life could've been taken from me and I may have not ever seen my daughter again.

I try not to think of never being there to watch my children grow up, but ever since the accident I have realized how suddenly your life could get taken from you with no warning. All it takes is seconds and your life has changed forever.

And so now, I am living each day as if it were my last. We never know what tomorrow is promised...so all I can say is should my day come tomorrow, atleast i'll know I have told my kids and told those that I love, that I loved them. I make sure to tell them everyday...


This was my 2003 Honda Element...